Have you ever looked at some women and wondered why in the
world they choose to date the jerks? Well today, I think I have some answers
for you.
There are some girls out there who have always dated the
jerks. I can’t explain those ones. I suppose they might have just
unintentionally picked poorly from the get go, and have never known anything
different. So, their luck continues in the same downward spiral in the
relationship category. But what about the women who have dated such sweet guys,
only to turn around and date a jerk?
Let me start by posing this question: What is one of the
number one things a woman looks for in a relationship?
Security, stability. To know that they can always count on something to be constant. Which is why
women generally start out looking for an amazing man who will love her, respect
her, and essentially “sweep her off her feet”. She looks for a man who will
provide for her, pick her up exactly when he says he will, etc…like I said, stability.
But what happens when that man she’s been searching for endlessly
finally does come around, only to fail her? What if time and time again, she
finds amazing men who seem like her exact fit and thinks will protect her
from harm, only to be stabbed in the back by those same men? She is going to
begin looking for her stability elsewhere.
In your mind, you might be thinking “Still yet. Why choose a
jerk? There are so many other good guys out there!” Here are some points as to
why a jerk seems like a perfect fit for them.
1) Albert Einstein once said that the definition of
insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different
results. Well, these ladies have clearly tried looking for the same type of man
over and over again, getting the same
results. Why is it such a surprise that after having their heart broken a
thousand times, they go after something different?
2) A jerk will always be a jerk. Knowing this is
actually strangely comforting. Here’s why: If a jerk ends up acting like jerk
and stabs her in the back at the end of it all, well…it hurts, but comes as no
surprise. He is a jerk, after all. If a supposed honest, kind, and sweet man
suddenly stabs her in the back, that knife wound causes damage beyond belief,
beyond repair. Far beyond what anyone can see. She turns around expecting to
see an enemy, only to discover it’s the last person she ever expected it to be;
the person she trusted the most. She can’t help but ask herself “Of all people,
you? Why??” So, to spare herself said pain ever again, she chooses the safer
option.
3) Which is worse? Choosing a man who pretends to
be a knight in shining armor, only to end up being a jerk? Or choosing a man
who is a jerk, but who is at least honest about it? It could be debated that
dishonesty of character could be just as bad (if not worse) than being a jerk.
Women protect these supposed gentlemen till the day that
relationship dies. They talk about how good they are, and the sweet things they
have done for them…and then have to watch as every word they said for and about
them is discounted by that same man’s actions.
To all the guys out there who complain that “good guys
finish last”…well, sorry. You’re not wrong, you usually do. The genuinely good guys do finish last, because
they are buried and hidden amongst the men who pretend to be good guys, but are actually wolves in sheep’s
clothing.
Then, to top it off for these women, rather than pinning it
on the men it should actually be pinned on, a large portion of the genuinely
good guys get angry at women in general for making said choice and refuse
to date anymore. They become bitter and give up.
And people wonder why women choose the jerks.
